Image 8 Bowie Strength/Otherness

There are many levels of strength, but the greatest comes with individuation. Such is the predicament of "Loving The Alien". As children, we learn a good sense of humor is crucial to one's personal survival. Children can be cruel and we have all had experiences where we were bullied or left isolated. These are the roots of insecurity, jealousy and envy. I found it was interesting to learn that the word "individual" means "undivided"... Becoming an individual means your are exploring the perimeters of trusting yourself, and trusting others. Trust is a process of sharing. It is something that is built between two people over time. There is no love without trust. You should understand that if the trust is not there, then the love is not there either; the "love" is something else.

What does it take to be undivided when surrounded by jealous people? Instead of giving-in to fear, what does it take to assume an attitude of child-like wonder and curiosity? Perhaps the truth is to admit your own lack of knowledge? or ignorance? In this regard, we are all newcomers; aliens.

Each day, practice looking at all things as if you were seeing them for the first time, for each day is a new day.

I am a very psychic person... But it's not something I advertise or sell because I am human, and like you, have struggled with trusting. Part of my problem has been the tendency to think I can read other people's minds. Even though my mind-reading ability is 99.9% accurate, I have suffered. You see, presumptions cut-off real communication with those closest to you. Rather than assume someone has a problem, I now simply ask - "are you okay?" It saves a lot of time and personal grief. (But I had to get my need to be "psychic" out of the way.)

When the ego is based in emotions like fear, jealousy, paranoia and attachment, people become "dis-eased". We buy-in to that disease with conscious focus, allowing it to solidify and dictate our "Reality". People who struggle with mental illness might not even know this is happening. I have witnessed this with those who were raised in abusive situations... How easy it is to make excuses for a loved-one who trespasses all over our being! People will continue to hang-on to a deteriorating situation or person, letting it become an ego-trip. To do this is a form of personal sabotage. Look at such mind-trips with awareness; journal around it, talk to a therapist. Prayerfully make a shift in your energy towards a calmer, more natural and higher vibration. Consider that, as a person you can be dominated - but as a presence, you cannot. Focus on the proactive things you can do to be strong as an individual. Create healing rituals for yourself, and see what you can share with others. The sharing of food, for example, is an ancient custom of making new friends!

Think about new places you can go where you can start fresh. Stop working for that oppressive boss, and take your power-back. Screw the "benefits" because this oracle is saying you can define your benefits and life on your own terms. Get into your personal strengths and go for it!

Unfortunately, some people are not so self-observant. They have not been given the information and tools they need. Without divine interception they are fated to evolve from only the experience of suffering. Many pride themselves on this kind of supposed strength... But without forgiveness it becomes relentless and alienating. There is the suffering that is compelled by personal growth and maturity; and then there is the suffering that is christalized, blocked, locked-up in the past and in the bones.

It's impossible to get through life without various kinds of partnerships. It is also impossible to merge with other kindred spirits unless we are rendered vulnerable. An individual learns to take his or her own weaknesses and mutate these energies, in a balance containing both strength and vulnerability. If you are too vulnerable, you have been busy people-pleasing and have forgotten your unique, inherent gifts and talents. You may be being challenged to look at what got you into this people-pleasing activity. What is your response to it when you're unhappy? Do you spend like crazy, or resort to other addictions? Could it be that you are ultimately betraying yourself?

"You know something? Whatever I do, wherever I go, someone somewhere feels betrayed. I'm not singing this song, I'm not wearing these kinds of clothes, my sexuality seems to now be polarized toward heterosexuality. But it's what I am, it's why I am - that's why I represent this word chameleon. I think we live in a fully hybridized world where there is no such thing as an absolute. I'm not somebody you can put in a box and describe in five words." - David Bowie; Details, October 1995.

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