Image 4 Bowie The Lord of the Land's End

Learning the right use of one's power is of issue. This is the new paradigm, which is pretty much telling us "power" is an illusion. 

There are many kinds of "power". In the beginning, a place of learning can sometimes become, as Antoine de Saint-Exupery writes - "a secret land of tears". For it is in our educational systems that we are first introduced to personal power versus vulnerability. Competition becomes a defining factor to one's success - at the expense of our most personal ways. Some call it the School of Hard Knocks. Everyone needs to learn how to establish healthy boundaries in their lives in order to feel safe. Without boundaries, we stop being genuine and resort to performing. Performing for whom?

We have different types of boundaries for ourselves, with close friends, relatives, family members, even our pets! On the outer perimeters are teachers, employers and co-workers, neighbors and acquaintances; people we see regularly on the street. And still further Outside are the strangers or people with whom we've broken ties. Who do we allow in our sacred space?HOW to go about it?

Here, The Little Prince is standing on his own personal asteroid, db2012. Like him, we all have a secret place where we must go to face our deepest wishes and fears. Power can feel foreign. We sometimes have guilt in taking our power. It's easy to become trapped in cycles of guilt and blame with others... Children continue to be victimized until they are able to articulate words and reach out on their own. Abuse may have worked as a way to control others, yet there are still those living mentally in Victorian times... When it was easier for people to keep their secrets behind closed doors. Technology, however, now supersedes privacy. We have moved into an age of personal accountability, whether we like it or not. It becomes more difficult to blame when there are cameras and recording devices all around! Slam/Bam Thank-You Ma'am!

It's easy to go into isolation and forget we're all one humanity! It's a challenge to know when to drop the jealousy battles and not add revenge to the mix. Acknowledging our personal limitations helps to simplify. Respect enables us to have some privacy in a techno-age. We are not automotons; we bleed.

Do you have a need of approval from others? Do you "perform" for people, or seek revenge just to get some kind of validation, or prove yourself right? Do you patronize, presume, or condescend? The oracle is saying you could be trespassing. Someone could be trespassing against you! Acknowledge the discomfort. Do you understand that blame and revenge always lead to violence in some form? Let's make the shift by asking "how" instead of "why". Let's move forward.

"What have you been doing to yourself?" With compassion and humor, take a closer look at where you are. There are a lot of people out there walking around without any sort of moral compass for sincerity... And they're marginal. What I'm saying is, they were not given or taught anything about values. They have nothing to believe in, jerking others around with ego-trips and agendas. 

Power is a trip! Power is territory. In sacred space we look at ways to empower ourselves, then face how we share power with others. We know "power" is simply energy. We get back what we put out. How does a leader know how to lead? By learning when to be still and to trust. It Happens Outside.

"I refused to be a banner-waver for anything or anybody, and I did not want everything that I was doing to be purely colored by my sexuality. I was dealing in a very primitive way with a very new area of public perception. I made as many mistakes as I made positive moves, but that's all right because that's what I did - and those were the times and that's the history of me. And that's great." - David Bowie, Details; Oct. l995
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